As Kendall Jenner’s jumper states, I have no tits. It has taken me decades to come to terms with this fact and I’m talking AAA, not VIP.
My adolescence consisted of years of considering surgery, witnessing the epidemic of similarly small breasted women having surgery, pondering why half of the population seemed to have them, why I didn’t and how fair or not this was. As a young woman growing up there are numerous pressures society places on us and we place on ourselves – as westerners, our problems may very well be first world ones but they exist all the same. In the year 2014 that illusion of the perfect female form, be it the Victoria’s Secret models with their stick thin frames and unimaginably voluptuous breasts, the Lara Stones and Kate Uptons gracing the pages of the world’s glossy publications and silver screens or even the regular healthy mother image with baby in tow – all of these female figures we see, have breasts! And significantly significant ones at that. We see them as part of what makes a woman a woman, it’s natural. My mum used to tell me that in the 70’s no one had breasts and if you look back at old photographs from Woodstock etc. it does seem like less women did, all those hormones in the chicken these days they claim. Damn you mum for all the organic, free range poultry we consumed and for never allowing us to eat KFC whilst growing up, I would think! Not to mention my genetic disposition to flat chest-ed-ness! A thoroughly nourished body gained by a truly healthy mother meant nothing to me at the time because to have not been handed those fun little genetic accessories biologically – or without blood exchanging hands via cosmetic surgery – seemed, at the time, a very raw deal.
I speak in past tense because as I reach 30, I am starting to realise that coming to terms with who you are and liking, no, loving yourself for who you are and what you look like, really does take time – 30 years to be precise. It sounds like the biggest cliche ever written but IF ONLY we could tell our younger selves a few things we’d actually listen to. IT DOES GET BETTER! Hahaha. And for the record, it was never really to do with boys. It never is just to do with boys. In fact thankfully I’ve never suffered even the slightest negative remark from the opposite sex but what ever the case may be..whether you’re straight or gay, big breasted or small, tall or short, we all have our hang ups and hopefully we all find a way to overcome them and live peacefully with them, eventually. I no longer fear leaving the house without make-up, I look in the mirror bare faced and actually smile instead of frown at my reflection these days and the funny thing is, nothing has really changed – other than me. I embrace my body, small breasts and all and focus on how lucky I am to have ten fingers, ten toes, my health and a hell of a curvy bum! It is amazing how getting older and ‘becoming a woman’ really is a journey in discovering oneself from the inside, out and one certainly doesn’t become a woman through the growth of breasts or the ability to not wear make-up in public. It is through the art of coming to terms with, accepting and loving oneself for who you are and the beauty of being an individual. And from what I have learnt, it comes with time.
Failing that, you could start a blog and find heaps of successful, gorgeous and talented people who have the same issue as you do and post a visual bible of them to view and be inspired by daily. All of these women have all the money in the world to have plastic surgery, yet they choose to stay naturally small breasted because, well, they are proud to OWN IT! SO here is that visual bible for the small breasted women out there and for me! Enjoy!
Evan Rachel Wood by Terry Richardson
Azelia Banks by Rankin for Hunger Magazine
Agyness Deyn for Interview Magazine photographed by Craig McDean
Natalie Portman for Marie Claire US November 2013 photographed by Tesh
Lupita Nyong’o for Instyle Magazine, December 2013
Kendall Jenner for Interview Magazine
Emma Stone for Vogue US, May 2014 photographed by Craig McDean
Lou Diollon for Interview Magazine, photographed by Terry Richardson
Kate Bosworth for Oyster Magazine Australia
Emma Watson for ELLE USA, April 2014 photographed by Carter Smith
Sofia Coppola, unknown
Cara Delevingne for Interview Magazine, photographed by Mario Testino
Mia Wasikowska for Vogue Australia, photographed by Emma Summerton
Keira Knightly by Mert Alas and Marcus Piggott
Charlotte Gainsbourg for 032c Magazine 2013, photographed by Karim Saldi
Olivia Palermo for Elle Ukraine April 2012 photographed by Andoni Arantxa
Rachel McAdams for Glamour Magazine USA, photographed by Alexei Hay
Kristen Stewart for GQ UK, photographed by Norman Jean Roy
Gwen Stefani by Steven Meisel
Paris Hilton for ELLE Magazine, photographed by Sofia Coppola
Jena Malone for Foam Magazine, photographed by Andrew Stiles
Claire Danes for Interview Magazine 2014, photographed by Fabien Baron
Katie Holmes by Tom Munroe
Kate Moss by Mario Testino
Selma Blair photographed by Michael Thompson
Zoe Saldana for Wallpaper Magazine
Freida Pinto For GQ Magazine
Olivia Wilde for Vanity Fair, photographed by Norman Jean Roy
Kate Hudson, unknown
Shakira for Escenarios Magazine, April 2014
Rose Byrne for Flare Magazine, photographed by Max Abadian
Sandra Bullock, unknown
Erin O’Connor for Oyster Magazine, photographed by Brooke Nipar
Leighton Meester for L’Officiel China, photographed by Alexey Yurenev
As superficial as this post may be, it certainly helps me!
Now if ever you find yourself thinking something negative or beating yourself up about something you can’t – or deep down know you don’t want to change, but at times dislike, remember this post and like a bible for the religious – you can always come back to it at your darkest hour. Much love!
‘Til next time,
xxx SV xxx